The primary relationship we have is with ourselves and this is what we bring to relationships with others. Understanding more about yourself is the key to having better relationships in general. Rebuilding our sense of self is important work that we may have not had time for in our busy lives.
I specialise in Couples Counselling and Individual Therapy - if you are single and looking to change, I can assist with particular strategies to understand what patterns may be playing out in your life, and how to change that.
Understanding ourselves may become more difficult as we transition into retirement. Our sense of who we are changes. In cases where we've experienced parents with mental health issues, it may mean we don't have permission to be ourselves. I will guide you through these challenges, as well as the tumult and grief of divorce or relationship breakdown.
Expert in All Things Relationship
In any relationship, be it romantic or platonic, it is inevitable and perfectly normal for problems to arise every now and then. You may be able to resolve most of them on your own, but if you feel overwhelmed or keep dealing with repetitive issues, it’s time to turn to the relationship expert at The Listening Guide. I offer a wide variety of counselling and psychotherapy services with the key point being that understanding the kind of relationships we have with others stems from the relationship we have with ourselves. Self understanding and self realisation are key tools to better relationships with others, as we not only get hurt in relationships but heal in relationships as well.
Based in West Perth, I serve clients over 18 all over Western Australia with both face to face and online appointments, and across Australia via Zoom or phone appointments. Read on to learn more about what I do, and feel free to call or email me with your questions.
"It's quite hard to talk about these things... (ie my inner feelings about how I see things)... " - it's a compliment to you!
When I talk about it with you, I'm learning how to communicate so I can do it better with others.
You make me open up my mind a bit more. I'm still hurt and have the blueprint of the first relationship. Realising that I need that.
I made notes from what you said in the session and trying to apply it. Like you said - retrain the brain to positive feedback not negative.
Trying to effectively make change (to get to the bottom of my emotional patterns and not take refuge in destructive behaviours) and is very hard to do it by yourself.
You've been helping me along these changes - exploring a new career, personal work in parallel to all my other changes - they've been very challenging. It would have been much more challenging without your support!
You've got me out of the dark abyss. I haven't been able to see me for so many years. It's quite profound.
I need to be comfy from an emotional and mental point of view (not just financial) in this second part of my life. ...from within myself and not be intimidated or scared. That's what you've taught me!
I no longer have violent thoughts about others... The work has made a huge difference to my life; it's been 12 month on, and I can manage my thoughts better and not get into fight and flight so easily. You have taught me so much about the brain and how to manage myself!
I would really like you to know how much I appreciate not only your patience with me, but your wonderful guidance you have provided me. You have helped me survive and begin to move forward in amongst my turmoil over the last 18 months.
It's nice to be heard. When I feel emotionally battered by the outside world, I felt seen in therapy with Mariyon.
What I really like about coming to you is that you don't point out my mistakes but help me understand them and help me deal with them rather than the previous experiences I had with therapists where they just pointed out my wrong ways of doing things. I feel comfortable with you and to be honest we had the option of going somewhere closer to home and we decided against that as we like you and feel like it is helping us more. I don't want to try and get comfortable again with another therapist.
We were in a not great way as there had been an infidelity and there was lack of trust. Mariyon helped us both to understand why it happened and what we could do differently. She was a great help!
Everyone should get on it. ... really helps me because I was hurting me! It benefits you mentally and in the process, helps everyone around them. ...Becoming more self aware and what I can discard. Can I keep myself apart from it all - and choose my mindset.
Thank you sincerely for all of the help and skilfull guidance/ counselling over the past year. It's helped me more than I can express. It has been well beyond my expectations. You really have an awesome gift and skill set.
Thank you Mariyon for all your support & time spent working with me throughout the year: I really much appreciate your feedback, perspectives/advices as well as the exercises we went through together. ...it has really helped me to see some of my family dynamics, the way I relate to it, as well as to my work, to relationship, and so much more. ...all the insights I have gained from this work.
I never realised until we had that conversation about Attachment Theory... to get love where we didn't.... It's okay to express myself to be me. It's about learning different rules and the voice inside of me. It's okay to be myself.
It's really good. You are clear and forthright and I feel comfortable with you.
I can't express what I'm truly feeling. Everyone gets entangled in my family and I get walked over. You taught me about trusting my authentic responses.
Openness and authenticity is greatly appreciated.
Thank you. It's not always been obvious to me the work we do, but it's clearly had a big impact, because I feel a lot better.
Very professional but not clinical or detached.
I worked through compulsive reactivity that I've had for a long time!
Do you want a change, but don't know where to begin? Or even where to start in the conversation? No question is too silly. I'm here to help you get started on knowing yourself and knowing yourself in relationships.
Call or Book using the form on this page today for a preliminary chat.
The 15-minute initial phone consultation is FREE of charge to clarify what you would like to achieve and answer your questions about the process. I will also assess if working with me is the most beneficial option for you.
I have various areas of specialisation, including helping people transition into 'who they are' as retirement looms, understanding and dealing with Borderline Personality Disorder impacts from family members, and the ongoing impacts of attachment in our earlier lives.
Happy to answer any question, big or small. When it comes to matching with someone who can help our personal growth it's is an important decision as we need to ensure we feel comfortable with that professional.
Thank you for reaching out.
I will be contacting you back to confirm your booking in max. 24 hrs.
Looking forward to working together!
Kind regards,
Mariyon
There are times when, for some reason, people tread paths that prove harmful in the long run, such as using substances to not feel things, opting for a stable yet unfulfilling career or making poor romantic choices. Doing so may be the result of not knowing exactly what they want, and that is where psychotherapy comes in.
Psychotherapy is a way for you to disclose your thoughts to a therapist and discover your motivations and unconscious drivers in the process. Once you know what the driving forces behind your actions are, you can start to take charge of them and take your first few steps toward contentment and fulfilment.
Therapy sessions offer a safe space where you are free to speak whatever is on your mind.
“In therapy, the therapist acts as a container for what we daren't let out, because it is so scary, or what lets itself out every so often, and lays waste to our lives.”
- Jeanette Winterson, Why Be Happy When You Could Be Normal?